Counselling That Understands ADHD

If your mind feels like a jumble of tabs you forgot to close, you’re in the right place.

Some days, it’s the small things that feel the hardest. Replying to a message. Starting a task. Remembering what you were about to do before you walked into the room. You’re trying, but it’s like your brain just won’t come with you.

Maybe someone’s suggested ADHD to you. Maybe you've already been diagnosed. Maybe you’re just trying to make sense of why things feel harder than they seem to be for other people.

Whatever brings you here, you’re welcome, just as you are.

You don’t need a diagnosis to know that you feel overwhelmed. 

You don’t need a letter from a psychiatrist to know that your brain might not always work the way the world expects it to. And you’re allowed to talk things through, even if you’re not sure what you’re trying to say yet.

In person-centred counselling, we start wherever you are. If filling in forms feels like a barrier, we can talk it through instead. If your thoughts feel messy, or your emotions feel jumbled, that’s ok. You don’t need to explain your experiences using fancy words or names that you can’t pronounce (Alexithymia anyone 👀).

A space that works with your brain, not against it

There’s no “right” way to be in a counselling session. You might want to talk fast, talk slow, pause for ages, go off on tangents, cry, laugh, go completely quiet, that’s all absolutely fine.

I believe in counselling with ADHD brains in mind, because I live in one of those brains too. That means:

• You’ll get gentle structure and clear reminders

• You won’t be shamed if you’re late or forget something 

• You’ll have built-in flexibility, because life is unpredictable

• Permission to skip the admin if that’s what’s holding you back

You don’t have to talk about ADHD if you don’t want to. But you can, if you’d like.

There’s no one way to be ADHD

ADHD doesn’t look the same for everyone. Especially not for women. Especially not for people of colour. Especially not for people who’ve spent years masking.

That’s why I try not to come in with any assumptions. You won’t be asked to educate me about your identity or experience but if you choose to, I’ll meet you with respect and empathy.

It’s not just in your head 

Sometimes ADHD can feel like everything’s your fault. Like if you could just try harder, focus more, get organised, then things wouldn’t feel so hard. 

But ADHD doesn’t happen in a vacuum.

It happens in systems that weren’t built for your brain. It happens in classrooms that reward sitting still and in workplaces that confuse sitting at a desk for being productive.

It happens in families that didn’t understand or couldn’t see what you needed. It happens in bodies impacted by trauma, race, gender, hormones, class. It happens when someone turns on the big light without warning. And sometimes it happens in the stories we carry about ourselves — being too much, too lazy, too emotional, too sensitive — those don’t come from nowhere.

Counselling doesn’t have to be neat

Some people imagine counselling is about solving everything, making it all tidy. Getting to the root cause. Fixing something.

And sometimes it can feel a bit like that. But often, it’s not that linear. It’s less about answers, more about exploration.

More about noticing than fixing.

More about unfolding than figuring it all out straight away.

Sometimes, it’s simply about feeling seen.

Being listened to in a way that feels different.

Being allowed to exist — fully, messily, as whoever you are — in a space where you don’t have to hold it all together.

You can start from where you are

If you’re thinking, “I wouldn’t know where to start”. That’s completely ok. You don’t need to know exactly where to start. You don’t need a plan. And you don’t need to know precisely what you want to get out of counselling. If it all feels like a mess and you just feel stuck. That’s alright. We can start there, and take it one step at a time.

If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. I offer gentle, inclusive counselling for people who want to feel seen, not managed, fixed, forced to slow down, or to be anyone other than who they really are.

If you feel like reaching out, I’ll be here. You’re welcome to book a free 20-min intro Zoom, or just drop me a text message if that feels easier 💚

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